Legendary comic-actor, John Ikechukwu Okafor popularly often called Mr Ibu speaks on fatherhood and how marital crises formed his determination and remoulded him for good.
Speaking to The Punch in a current interview, the actor highlighted the duties that include being a father and the top of the household.
According to him, he was a careless father at first however retraced his steps and modified for good.
Mr Ibu additional revealed that two of his wives left after having a toddler every for him and made it clear to him that they left because he didn’t have cash. This nevertheless made him double his efforts so as to not be regarded down on once more.
In his phrases:
“When you’re younger and single it’s a large distinction from being a married man, and an even bigger distinction whenever you begin to have kids. When you have infants, you’re changing into a person, and when you’re changing into a person, you’re considering large. There had been sure issues I wouldn’t try this I do now, because I am the top of my household and household comes first. Also, my kids look as much as me, be taught from me and emulate me.
I have to point out them that I am accountable, in order that they are often happy with who I am. God says it is best to nurture them, present for them and that’s what I do. Fatherhood makes you a accountable particular person. We have fathers who’re accountable and there are others who’re irresponsible and careless.
When I began my journey into fatherhood, I was a careless father, however by God’s grace I was capable of retrace my steps, construct up myself and as we speak I am proudly a accountable father. If you’re a careless father, who doesn’t take care of his kids, who doesn’t have love for his and household, who doesn’t have love and ardour for constructing a house, such an individual shouldn’t be a person. I have been capable of stay as much as my duties as a father by offering for my household and ensuring they by no means lack.
You have to construct confidence in your self. You be taught on a regular basis as a father, and I by no means miss any alternative to be taught on a regular basis and this makes me a greater father or mother.
I have individuals who be taught from me and I train them the best way to construct a house though I had some ups and downs in the midst of attempting to construct a house. My first and second marriages failed; they (my wives) left me after having a toddler every for me.
I questioned what made them make such choices and they made me know that it was because I didn’t have cash. This made me know that I have to have the ability to maintain my household and present for them and be sure that they’re glad and not have any purpose to look down on me.”