A person has cried out on social media after his mother sternly disadvantaged him of making contact with his biological father.
Sharing his story, he stated:
“I used to be very younger after I began asking about my father. We lived in a compound home the place each family had a person in it. We had none. All I had was my mother. Whatever I wanted, she offered. But I wasn’t fulfilled.
I checked out what went on within the households round us and wished the identical factor. I wished a person in our home. In college, individuals talked about their fathers; “My father bought me this and that.” My father took me to this place and that place.” “My father…” “My father…”
When it bought to my flip to talk, I stated, “My mother…” At some level, my associates turned on me; “Why is it always your mother? Don’t you have a father who does something for you?”
So I got here dwelling with questions for my mother; “Where’s dad? Everyone has a father so where’s mine?”
When I used to be very younger the reply was, “He has traveled. When he comes you would see him. When anyone asks you, tell them your dad has traveled.”
When I reached mid-age—ten or twelve, the reply modified. “I don’t know where your father is. He traveled and never came back. I don’t know where he went and I haven’t heard from him. When one day he comes around, you’ll see him.”
And then it changed into a risk. I used to be a young person then; “You’ll never ask me about your father again, do you hear me? Do you lack anything around here? The next time you mention your father again, I will throw you out so you go and look for him yourself. And when you leave, you’ll never come back here again.”
So someday we went to our hometown. I used to be sixteen I feel. When I used to be alone with my mother’s elder sister. I whispered into her ears, “Do you know anything about my father? Mom said he traveled. These days when I ask her she gets angry. Do you know where he is?”
She whispered again, “Yes I know where he is. He’s around town. I know where we can find him but promise me when we go there, you won’t mention it to your mother.”
The subsequent morning she held my hand and took me to a road near the principle market. She stated, “Let’s sit here and wait.” Minutes later she pointed at a store and stated, “Look over there. You see that man opening the store? Look at him very properly. That’s your father. He owns that store so he’s at all times round.
Someday if you develop up and need to meet him, you recognize the place to search out him.” I pleaded with her to take me to him however she didn’t. She stated it wasn’t in her place to introduce me to my father.
I bought dwelling and I assumed of him quite a bit and questioned why my mother received’t let me see him.
When I bought to the boarding home in senior highschool, I sneaked out of campus and traveled to our hometown to satisfy him. Guess what, he acknowledged me when he noticed me. He requested, “What are you doing here? Who brought you here and how did you know my shop?” I answered just one query from the lot; “My aunt showed me here.”
He took me dwelling and met his spouse and his three kids. The first was means older than me. The second, Raymond was round my age and the third was a lady. It was Raymond I constructed a connection with. I spent the evening with them and the next day, he took me to the station, gave me cash, and bade me goodbye.
Something in me rested that day. The curiosity. The empty feeling of the unknown. The inadequacies of my youthful days have been gone. I had seen my father. I had touched him. I knew he was alive. I knew he was an individual. My spirit rested and I by no means seemed for him once more however by some means, I used to be at all times speaking to Raymond, asking him how dad was doing and all.
Eleven years later, I went into my messenger and noticed a message from Raymond. Somehow we misplaced contact so he dropped his quantity and requested me to present him a name. I known as him that very second and we talked. I requested about dad and he stated, “Your man is dying slowly.
I don’t understand how lengthy he has left however any man at his age who will get a stroke largely doesn’t survive it. His left facet is gone. He’s regularly shedding his speech. He requested of you latterly. That’s the principle cause why I despatched you the message. Come and see him earlier than he lastly goes away.”
I’d wished to journey the following day to see him however one thing instructed me to talk to my mother about it first. It was my conscience. It stored pricking me; “Mom has a reason she didn’t want me to see my father. If I go now, won’t it be a betrayal on my part?” So I traveled to my mother and spoke to her about it.
“Do you know that I met my father so many years ago? I’m sorry I didn’t tell you.”
“I know you met him. I intentionally didn’t ask you about it.”
“How did you know? Aunt told you about it?”
“So it’s your aunt who took you to him, right? Thanks for letting me know. I will deal with her.”
“Wait, you mean she didn’t tell you? So how did you know?”
“Your books. I saw what you’ve written behind them. Adɔfo asa. That’s your father’s Nickname. The day I saw it written on all your exercise and textbooks, I knew you had met him.”
“Are you angry?”
“Yes, I’m angry. It’s the reason why I didn’t talk about it but now I know where to channel that anger.”
“But why didn’t you want me to see my father?”
“The day you make peace with that man, it’s over between us. You cease to be my son. I won’t tell you my reasons now.”
That’s how the dialog ended. I didn’t dare inform her about my father’s situation and the necessity to go and see him. I deserted the mission proper there. I must be sleeping by now however the ideas of my father and my mother preserve me awake every evening.”